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孟子休妻

战国时期的思想家、政治家和教育家孟子，是继孔子之后儒家学派的主要代表人物，被后世尊奉为仅次于孔子的“亚圣”。

孟子一生的成就，与他的母亲从小对他的教育是分不开的。孟母是一位集慈爱、严格、智慧于一身的伟大的母亲，早在孟子幼年时候，便位后人留下了“孟母三迁”、“孟母断织”等富有深刻教育意义的故事。孟子成年娶妻后，孟母仍不断利用处理家庭生活的琐事等去启发、教育他，帮助他从各方面进一步完善人格。

有一次，孟子的妻子在房间里休息，因为是独自一个人，便无所顾忌地将两腿叉开坐着。这时，孟子推门进来，一看见妻子这样坐着，非常生气。

原来，古人称这种双腿向前叉开坐为箕踞，箕踞向人是非常不礼貌的。孟子一声不吭就走出去，看到孟母，便说:“我要把妻子休回娘家去。”孟母问他:“这是为什么?”孟子说:“她既不懂礼貌，又没有仪态。”孟母又问:“因为什么而认为她没礼貌呢?”，“她双腿叉开坐着，箕踞向人，”孟子回道:“所以要休她。”“那你又是如何知道的呢?”孟母问。

孟子便把刚才的一幕说给孟母听，孟母听完后说:“那么没礼貌的人应该是你，而不是你妻子。难道你忘了《礼记》上是怎么教人的?进屋前，要先问一下里面是谁;上厅堂时，要高声说话;为避免看见别人的隐私，进房后，眼睛应向下看。你想想，卧室是休息的地方，你不出声、不低头就闯了进去，已经先失了礼，怎么能责备别人没礼貌呢?没礼貌的人是你自己呀!”

一席话说得孟子心服口服，再也没提什么休妻子回娘家的话了。

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Mencius to divorce his wife

Mencius, a thinker, statesman and educator in the warring states period, was the main representative of the Confucian school after Confucius and was honored as the "sub-saint" only second to Confucius.

Mencius' achievement in life was inseparable from his mother's education. Mencius' mother was a great mother who was full of love, strictness and wisdom. As early as his childhood, mencius left behind stories with profound educational significance such as "meng's mother moved three times" and "meng's mother broke her weaving". After mencius became an adult and married a wife, mencius' mother continued to use the trifles of family life to enlighten and educate him, helping him to further improve his personality from all aspects.

On one occasion, mencius' wife was resting in her room, and as she was alone, she had no scruples about sitting with her legs apart. At that moment mencius opened the door and came in. When he saw his wife sitting like this, he was very angry.

Originally, the ancients called this kind of legs forked forward to sit for skip, skip to the person is very impolite. Mencius went out without saying a word. Seeing meng's mother, he said, 'I will divorce my wife and return to her mother's home.' Mother meng asked him: "why?" Mencius said, 'she has neither manners nor manners.' Mencius mother asked again: "because of what and think she is not polite?" 'she is sitting with her legs spread out and sitting on the table,' mencius replied, 'so she must be put away.' "And how do you know?" Mother meng asked.

Mencius told meng's mother what had happened. After hearing this, meng's mother said, 'then it should be you who are impolite, not your wife. Don't you remember how it was taught in the book of rites? Before entering a house, ask who is inside; When you go into the hall, speak loudly; To avoid seeing other people's privacy, look down when you enter the room. You think, the bedroom is the place that rests, you do not make a sound, do not lower the head to break into go into, had lost courtesy first, how can you blame others impolite? You are the one who has no manners!"

Mencius was convinced by these words and did not mention any more that his wife would return home.